Fun, if not particularly polite way to deal with butch lesbians insisting on assuming you’re one of them

My salon does quite a bit of promoting for Pride.  It’s good for business and I think we only have one straight staffer so it’s kind of a big thing for us.  Which means that today I was manning our booth while wearing Kurt’s ‘Born This Way’ shirt.

Apparently having ‘LIKES BOYS’ in giant letters across my torso was not enough to deter the lesbians.  Every couple of minutes one of them would come up to me and talk about how great it is to see a lesbian in hairdressing.  (It’s not really, I know at least as many lesbian hairdressers as I do gay men.)  Normally I’m very polite about this.  I’m used to educating and this sort of thing happens to all the cis guys in my family too so I don’t consider it a big deal.

Today I got frustrated.  When a woman (who looked strikingly like Chaz Bono when he first came out) came up to me wearing a ‘dip me in honey and throw me to the lesbians’ and talking about how inspiring I was I immediately started calling her ‘sir’.  Repeatedly.  Even after she corrected me.  I did that over and over and over again until finally one woman got frustrated and asked why I assumed she was a man.

“Why did you assume I’m a woman?”

She didn’t really have an answer for that.

6 Replies to “Fun, if not particularly polite way to deal with butch lesbians insisting on assuming you’re one of them”

  1. “likes boys” is read to mean: “likes butches and trans boyz”. Even if you tell them that you are only into men, they tell you they have a dildo. For me, the only thing that helped a *bit* was telling them I like to shove my cock into cis guy’s asses, and only into them, and a cis guy is defined as a guy whose cock is permanently attached to his body (Obviously I do trans men who are male identified, too, but they don’t need to know that).

    • EXACTLY the response i’ve given to a few butch lesbians. my reaction is usually “why would you want to do THAT?” and “euuuu” but then they’ll usually walk away and leave me alone.

  2. SoF’s answer wouldn’t work for me, but I suppose if I had the same problem, I could tell them I like to suck dick – and not the plastic kind 🙂

  3. This is exactly what I’ve been thinking of doing to people who misgender me, but haven’t had the opportunity to do it consistently. I’m kind of glad you got confronted by that woman, because you were able to deliver the punchline. I hope they both “got it” and if they didn’t at least they were as frustrated as you were.

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