Can we please stop saying any variation of that when a guy is experiencing severe dysphoria over his genitalia?Â It dismisses the problem in favour of gender theory, an approach that is neither compassionate nor effective.
We know that there’s more than one way to be male.Â Trust me, we know.Â It’s virtually impossible to be part of the trans community for more than five minutes without being told that particular aspect.Â That’s not why we’re upset.Â Some people transition for social reasons, some people for a mix of social and physical, some for entirely physical.Â Those of us who are more on the physical than social side of the spectrum shouldn’t be talked down to simply because the prevailing attitude says having a penis isn’t important.
Having a penis is important to me.Â I don’t feel right having a vagina.Â Fuck social gender, fuck theory, fuck anything else that says having a vagina isn’t relevant to my masculinity.Â It’s relevant to me.Â That should be all that matters.
When you feel like crap because looking down makes you feel like you’ve been kicked in the stomach you aren’t helped by people saying “oh, it doesn’t matter, there are a ton of different ways to have a male body.”Â In fact, that only hurts.Â It says that what you feel isn’t important.Â That your entire sense of how your body should look is irrelevant because being transsexual isn’t PC any more.Â You can live without a necessary limb, you’ll be fine.Â After all, these sixteen gender theorists say so.
Would you tell someone with severe depression that it’s ok, “there’s more than one way to be happy”?Â I doubt it because there have been amazing shifts in the way depression is looked at.Â That wouldn’t have been an uncommon response in an earlier time though.Â It was perfectly acceptable to brush off depression as just another state of being, a personal flaw to be overcome rather than a debilitating illness.Â Most people think that’s a horrible thought now, yet we do the exact same thing to guys with genital dysphoria.
I get that for some guys there really is more than one way to have a male body.Â There are guys who love their vaginas, guys who don’t feel the need for T, guys with any number of different ways of viewing their bodies.Â However, that is not the case for all of us.Â Some of us really do have a very binary way of looking at our bodies.Â That doesn’t mean we’re any better or worse than the guys who experience less genital dysphoria, it just means we’re different.Â Acting like we’re simply in need of education fails to recognise that.