So I went out last night.Â It’s not something I do very often these days, work has me busy and I did not inherit the Latino dance gene, but a friend was visiting from out of town so I figured why not.
Apparently pushy little hipster queens were why not.Â Don’t get me wrong, the kid was cute, I just wasn’t really looking for a hook up even if he had been my type.Â After about 20 minutes of rejecting the guy (I have to admit, that takes decent balls) he shouts “why don’t you fags ever like trannies?!”
Now, I’ve had some interesting things shouted at me over the course of my life.Â That was quite possibly the most amusing.Â I feel kind of bad because I started laughing and probably turned what was already embarrassing into one of those horror stories we all have from early transition, but it was just so funny.
Let that be a lesson to all of you newly passing guys: don’t assume you’re being rejected for being trans.Â Actually, let’s start with don’t insist on pursuing a guy after he explicitly says ‘no’.Â Remember high school and “no means no”?Â It applies to gay guys too.Â I know, there’s all that talk about gay guys being promiscuous and constantly horny.Â Often I am horny, that doesn’t mean I want to sleep with everything that moves.Â At least, not anymore.Â Trust me, you don’t want to be lumped in with the guys I slept with during the early-T days.Â They were often unwashed.
As for the trans thing, sometimes a guy just isn’t interested.Â We’re allowed to not be interested, you don’t get a free pass on fucking everyone you want just because you’re trans.Â Sure, sometimes it is transphobia.Â Sometimes guys are assholes.Â However, when you’ve been ignored even before you’ve come out you need to assume that it’s something other than transphobia.Â Kid could’ve had the world’s biggest penis and I still wouldn’t have been interested.Â Why?Â Because hipsters aren’t really my type, I like my guys to at least pretend they’re legal, and I was going home with a good friend who also happens to be an amazingly talented bottom.Â No guy was getting my attention that night, trans, cis, or otherwise.Â Maybe Chris Colfer or Nicky Byrne — and even they would have had to have wanted to join in.