Comments on: Guest Post: Advice to newly out gay trans men http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/ Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy Fri, 03 May 2013 17:17:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: justin http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/#comment-47021 justin Fri, 21 Sep 2012 00:48:14 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=192#comment-47021 yes, yes, YESSSS!!!! i don’t hate women, i hate stereotypical women–ie the ones who find it perfectly normal to comment endlessly on others’ looks, eating habits, etc. before i was out as trans i would CONSTANTLY have some girl or other push my bangs out of my face and coo “you have such a preeettty faaaace, you should show it offff more!” or “how do you stay so skinnneeee, i wish i could eat ice creeeeam like you!” ugh ugh ugh. in fact, i can now always tell if i pass or not by how i’m treated by other FEMALES–whether they see me as an autonomous human being or just another one of “the girrrlllls” that they can comment on. excellent point. now, not all cis girls do this, but most do. i should also add that cis gay men do this too…but only to other people they perceive as cis girls as well. bleh, to be perceived as a boy means, in general, that i will be treated the way i wish to be treated.

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]]> By: ShipofFools http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/#comment-29303 ShipofFools Sun, 17 Jun 2012 13:54:52 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=192#comment-29303

I think I wrote that part. And while I know how it sounds, I’m still standing with it. I have been in all male and all female contexts. I have never experienced men telling men what to eat or what to wear. They mostly don’t care enough for other people to even notice what other people eat or wear (or who they fuck and so on).
Many women on the other hand, be they queer lesbians or straight secretaries, tend to be interested in things like that a lot. I always felt extremely controlled and judged by women when I was in female environments and was seen as a women.
Women do that. Men don’t. That’s my experience. Calling this misogynistic doesn’t make it go away.

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]]> By: notaiden http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/#comment-21941 notaiden Fri, 04 May 2012 23:27:24 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=192#comment-21941

First off, this was a collaborative effort from a number of guys based on experiences in a wide variety of countries and settings. I don’t remember who came up with that particular one, but I’m not going to pretend like everywhere in the world is as enlightened as the most liberal locations (which aren’t particularly liberal, to be honest).

Second, TRANS MEN DON’T HATE BEING WOMEN. Trans men aren’t women, plain and simple. Go read a Trans 101 primer and get back to me.

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]]> By: Nice http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/#comment-21324 Nice Tue, 01 May 2012 07:29:28 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=192#comment-21324 Hidden due to low comment rating. Click here to see.

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]]> By: Oliver http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/#comment-543 Oliver Wed, 16 Feb 2011 02:44:19 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=192#comment-543 I think I need to read this once a month to remind myself of all the important points you and your friends make. Thanks for sharing.

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]]> By: jgraydog http://notanotheraiden.com/guest-post-advice-to-newly-out-gay-trans-men/#comment-542 jgraydog Wed, 23 Jun 2010 05:18:59 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=192#comment-542 This has been sooo helpful.

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