Comments for Not Another Aiden http://notanotheraiden.com Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:07:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux by Tervicz http://notanotheraiden.com/faq-gay-men-and-gay-ftms-redux/#comment-7270 Tervicz Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:07:33 +0000 http://notanotheraiden.com/?p=467#comment-7270 Hi! I'm really not sure if this is the right place to say this, I'm not really that internet-guy. Anyway, I just wanted to say that reading this (not only this special article, but this one is good ;)), I mean, reading your blog did mean much to me. I'm also a quite effeminate gay ftm, I've not even started transitioning yet, and the thought that there are other guys like me... other transguys like me... is quite reassuring. More than reassuring actually, but English is not my native tongue, I don't know the right word for it. Anyway, thank you for writing that blog. If it means anything to you, it helped me. A lot. :) greetings Tervicz Hi!

I’m really not sure if this is the right place to say this, I’m not really that internet-guy. Anyway, I just wanted to say that reading this (not only this special article, but this one is good ;) ), I mean, reading your blog did mean much to me. I’m also a quite effeminate gay ftm, I’ve not even started transitioning yet, and the thought that there are other guys like me… other transguys like me… is quite reassuring. More than reassuring actually, but English is not my native tongue, I don’t know the right word for it. Anyway, thank you for writing that blog. If it means anything to you, it helped me. A lot. :)

greetings Tervicz

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]]> Comment on “I only date women and transmen” by vin http://notanotheraiden.com/i-only-date-women-and-transmen/#comment-6928 vin Sun, 22 Jan 2012 06:21:20 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=33#comment-6928 Not only of this statement totally transphobic, you also are clearly homophobic toward gay men for using the F****T as an insult or even use it at all because you are a cisgendered woman and you are not a gay man, so you are not allowed to use that word, it is homophobic! So you are a homophobic transphobic hater and you should definately not be going out with trans people. No one is asking you to explain your feelings about people seuxally or emotionally, but you are clearly transphobic and you identifying as a lesbian while going out with transmen is just another way you are putting transmen down, just another way you are transphobic Not only of this statement totally transphobic, you also are clearly homophobic toward gay men for using the F****T as an insult or even use it at all because you are a cisgendered woman and you are not a gay man, so you are not allowed to use that word, it is homophobic!

So you are a homophobic transphobic hater and you should definately not be going out with trans people.

No one is asking you to explain your feelings about people seuxally or emotionally, but you are clearly transphobic and you identifying as a lesbian while going out with transmen is just another way you are putting transmen down, just another way you are transphobic

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]]> Comment on “I only date women and transmen” by vin http://notanotheraiden.com/i-only-date-women-and-transmen/#comment-6926 vin Sun, 22 Jan 2012 06:18:34 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=33#comment-6926 again, no one is saying you cant desire who you desire, or experiment, but it sounds to me your the one who cares too much about labels and what other people think. Do think being a lesbian is like a special interests club? like knitting? being a lesbian is not something you occationally do, it is a label which mean you are a woman who sleeps with women, if you sleep with men aswell say you are a woman who sleep with men and women, or bisexual, thats totally cool, whats wrong with that? are you biphobic too? whats wrong with just saying you don't have a gender preference when it comes to relationships? or say you like people with big hearts or whatever.. do you have to say your a lesbian, and why do you think its more important for you to keep that identity than it is for transmen to feel respected? again, no one is saying you cant desire who you desire, or experiment, but it sounds to me your the one who cares too much about labels and what other people think. Do think being a lesbian is like a special interests club? like knitting? being a lesbian is not something you occationally do, it is a label which mean you are a woman who sleeps with women, if you sleep with men aswell say you are a woman who sleep with men and women, or bisexual, thats totally cool, whats wrong with that? are you biphobic too? whats wrong with just saying you don’t have a gender preference when it comes to relationships? or say you like people with big hearts or whatever.. do you have to say your a lesbian, and why do you think its more important for you to keep that identity than it is for transmen to feel respected?

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]]> Comment on “I only date women and transmen” by vin http://notanotheraiden.com/i-only-date-women-and-transmen/#comment-6925 vin Sun, 22 Jan 2012 05:37:29 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=33#comment-6925 Not only of this statement totally transphobic, you also are clearly homophobic toward gay men for using the F****T as an insult or even use it at all because you are a cisgendered woman and you are not a gay man, so you are not allowed to use that word, it is homophobic! So you are a homophobic transphobic hater and you should definately not be going out with trans people. No one is asking you to explain your feelings about people seuxally or emotionally, but you are clearly transphobic and you identifying as a lesbian while going out with transmen is just another way you are putting transmen down, just another way you are transphobic. Not only of this statement totally transphobic, you also are clearly homophobic toward gay men for using the F****T as an insult or even use it at all because you are a cisgendered woman and you are not a gay man, so you are not allowed to use that word, it is homophobic!

So you are a homophobic transphobic hater and you should definately not be going out with trans people.

No one is asking you to explain your feelings about people seuxally or emotionally, but you are clearly transphobic and you identifying as a lesbian while going out with transmen is just another way you are putting transmen down, just another way you are transphobic.

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]]> Comment on “I only date women and transmen” by vin http://notanotheraiden.com/i-only-date-women-and-transmen/#comment-6923 vin Sun, 22 Jan 2012 05:30:54 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=33#comment-6923 This statement is TOTALLY transphobic! Can I just say that if you have to say your have dated FTM's and are "friends" with ftms because you say something, does not mean that you are not able to think very fucked up things about transpeople, does not mean what you are saying isn't transphobic. What you are saying is that Transsexual men are not "really" men, because they have lived as women, you are saying that they are "different", you are "othering" them, please have some RESPECT!! they identify as men, if you do not think they act like men, you are probably just being sexist and generalizing about men, and that kind of attitude reinforces not just sexist and transphobia towards people who identify as men, but also reinforced sexist toward women, because you are saying "men are like this, women are like this and transmen are like something else..."...this is fucked up! have some respect and don't talk like that about transmen period. Otherwise you might find yourself loosing all of your trans friends and pissing people of. This statement is TOTALLY transphobic! Can I just say that if you have to say your have dated FTM’s and are “friends” with ftms because you say something, does not mean that you are not able to think very fucked up things about transpeople, does not mean what you are saying isn’t transphobic.

What you are saying is that Transsexual men are not “really” men, because they have lived as women, you are saying that they are “different”, you are “othering” them, please have some RESPECT!! they identify as men, if you do not think they act like men, you are probably just being sexist and generalizing about men, and that kind of attitude reinforces not just sexist and transphobia towards people who identify as men, but also reinforced sexist toward women, because you are saying “men are like this, women are like this and transmen are like something else…”…this is fucked up! have some respect and don’t talk like that about transmen period. Otherwise you might find yourself loosing all of your trans friends and pissing people of.

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]]> Comment on “I only date women and transmen” by vin http://notanotheraiden.com/i-only-date-women-and-transmen/#comment-6922 vin Sun, 22 Jan 2012 05:23:07 +0000 http://trans.kolyafloit.com/?p=33#comment-6922 I am quite astounded that someone that claims so much empathy to another persons struggle due to their own discrimination can be so blind to the discrimination and transphobia another person has had to deal with. "Surprised that you categorically deny that your life experience for the period of time you lived in an externalized female body had zero influence on your life and perspective as a man." This is a very strange statement, for one thing in the article in no where did he state his experience as a female person before transition has had no influence on him, what he is saying is that this does not make him any less of a man, so by you saying this you are saying that living as a woman makes him less of a man now, this is transphobic! It is ok for you to be confused about your sexuality, as you put it, but your insistence on labeling yourself lesbian when you are in a relationship with a transman IS denying his gender identity, as your lesbian ID is about whom your sleep with.. which is him. Why not call yourself bisexual? or bi-curious? ..Whether he knows this yet or not, it is ignoring his gender, maybe his self esteem is so low he would not even think of contradicting you, or maybe he is super laid back, but just because he thinks its ok, does mean it is ok. I am quite astounded that someone that claims so much empathy to another persons struggle due to their own discrimination can be so blind to the discrimination and transphobia another person has had to deal with.

“Surprised that you categorically deny that your life experience for the period of time you lived in an externalized female body had zero influence on your life and perspective as a man.”

This is a very strange statement, for one thing in the article in no where did he state his experience as a female person before transition has had no influence on him, what he is saying is that this does not make him any less of a man, so by you saying this you are saying that living as a woman makes him less of a man now, this is transphobic!

It is ok for you to be confused about your sexuality, as you put it, but your insistence on labeling yourself lesbian when you are in a relationship with a transman IS denying his gender identity, as your lesbian ID is about whom your sleep with.. which is him. Why not call yourself bisexual? or bi-curious? ..Whether he knows this yet or not, it is ignoring his gender, maybe his self esteem is so low he would not even think of contradicting you, or maybe he is super laid back, but just because he thinks its ok, does mean it is ok.

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]]> Comment on FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux by SoF http://notanotheraiden.com/faq-gay-men-and-gay-ftms-redux/#comment-5750 SoF Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:45:08 +0000 http://notanotheraiden.com/?p=467#comment-5750 I'm posting this link here to tell you guys out there to relax. This is pretty common attitude for a cis gay man. http://youtu.be/V6LFCjez2sU "would you date a trans guy?" I’m posting this link here to tell you guys out there to relax. This is pretty common attitude for a cis gay man.
http://youtu.be/V6LFCjez2sU
“would you date a trans guy?”

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]]> Comment on FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux by SoF http://notanotheraiden.com/faq-gay-men-and-gay-ftms-redux/#comment-5715 SoF Thu, 12 Jan 2012 12:08:48 +0000 http://notanotheraiden.com/?p=467#comment-5715 You're not talking about those 200-400$ Lolajakes they make nowadays? http://lolajake.com/secure/category/play/ I have never seen one over here, and wouldn't want to order something that expensive without ever touching it :/ I tried to build a hard-core *lol* dildo once by stuffing a tiny dildo into a cheap soft packer. Felt super realistic, but was rather fat ;) Btw- anybody ever seen an uncut dildo? I just can't get used to the cut look, as almost nobody over here is cut. You’re not talking about those 200-400$ Lolajakes they make nowadays? http://lolajake.com/secure/category/play/ I have never seen one over here, and wouldn’t want to order something that expensive without ever touching it :/

I tried to build a hard-core *lol* dildo once by stuffing a tiny dildo into a cheap soft packer. Felt super realistic, but was rather fat ;)

Btw- anybody ever seen an uncut dildo? I just can’t get used to the cut look, as almost nobody over here is cut.

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]]> Comment on FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux by notaiden http://notanotheraiden.com/faq-gay-men-and-gay-ftms-redux/#comment-5425 notaiden Tue, 10 Jan 2012 20:46:50 +0000 http://notanotheraiden.com/?p=467#comment-5425 ...If you're breaking through membranes like that you're going to have a TON of warning in the form of intense pain. Like, ripping and tearing kind of pain. I have a few different dicks, but the one I use most often is probably my custom LolaJake. Not sure if they're still around or as good quality as they were to begin with, it's been like five years. It's a bit shiny so you couldn't pass it off as flesh in looks, but texture wise it's surprisingly realistic. …If you’re breaking through membranes like that you’re going to have a TON of warning in the form of intense pain. Like, ripping and tearing kind of pain.

I have a few different dicks, but the one I use most often is probably my custom LolaJake. Not sure if they’re still around or as good quality as they were to begin with, it’s been like five years. It’s a bit shiny so you couldn’t pass it off as flesh in looks, but texture wise it’s surprisingly realistic.

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]]> Comment on FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux by SoF http://notanotheraiden.com/faq-gay-men-and-gay-ftms-redux/#comment-5403 SoF Tue, 10 Jan 2012 18:07:52 +0000 http://notanotheraiden.com/?p=467#comment-5403 That's what I thought too. The risk that was mentioned wasn't tiny fissures but rather breaking through the inside wall of the anus (word?) because it's not as tough as a vaginal wall, or something. Sounded a bit creepy, and you never know. But I've never heard about that in real life. And the book was written by a dyke, so -- ;-) What brands are you using? I recently saw one with a firm core here, but we don't have them too much. That’s what I thought too. The risk that was mentioned wasn’t tiny fissures but rather breaking through the inside wall of the anus (word?) because it’s not as tough as a vaginal wall, or something. Sounded a bit creepy, and you never know. But I’ve never heard about that in real life.
And the book was written by a dyke, so — ;-)

What brands are you using? I recently saw one with a firm core here, but we don’t have them too much.

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