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Not Another Aiden

Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy

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From the frequent search terms: Going stealth

Posted December 31st, 2011 by notaiden | No Comments

“can transmen ever go stealth” This is going to depend on your definition of ‘stealth’ and what it is you want to do to your body. Do you want to never have to tell anyone in your life that you’re trans, including sexual partners? If you want T, top, and lower surgery you can probably […]

On being stealth

Posted April 8th, 2011 by notaiden | 3 Comments

I just got an inbox full of questions about being stealth and why and how that affects me so rather than respond to each of them individually (sorry guys, I don’t have quite that much free time) I figured I’d do a post. First of all, it’s important to note that stealth is just as […]

Practical reasons for lower surgery

Posted August 10th, 2010 by notaiden | No Comments

Public bathrooms and showers would be a hell of a lot easier to deal with. No more worrying about what would happen if I was in a car accident or something. Wouldn’t always have to disclose to someone in case of medical emergency. Less worrying about potential health emergencies in general. Wouldn’t have to wonder […]

Fuckin’ Finally!

Posted July 29th, 2010 by notaiden | 6 Comments

First I have work, then I have to fumigate my apartment (note: always trust your instinct when it comes to pet-sitters), then my ISP decides to turn into evil incarnate, I’m amazed there are actually still hits on here! I still have comments I need to get to so if there’s anything major anyone’d like […]

Bathrooms and “The Plague”

Posted February 2nd, 2010 by notaiden | 25 Comments

As most people here know, I’m about 90-99% stealth.  That is, there are only a handful of people in my metro area who both know who I am offline and that I’m trans.  About half are people I’ve slept with, maybe a third are doctors or other medical personnel, and the rest are friends or […]

Stealth vs Out: Decision Making

Posted October 1st, 2009 by notaiden | No Comments

Last time I recounted my story of going from 100% out to 98% stealth.  This time I’d like to go through some basics to help people make a conscious decision about how open they want to be.  I’m of the mindset that it’s better to know where you stand on these things so you know […]

Stealth vs Out: The Neverending Dilema

Posted September 30th, 2009 by notaiden | 3 Comments

One of the things all transguys have to deal with eventually is how open they want to be about their trans* status.  Unfortunately, most of us don’t start thinking about this until it becomes a problem — whether because we didn’t realise we weren’t out already or because suddenly people we don’t want knowing have […]

Disclosure: When, Where, Why, and How

Posted September 11th, 2009 by notaiden | 2 Comments

If any of you follow my Tumblr log you’ll know that I posted a FML post about a woman who’s husband didn’t disclose his trans history until after the wedding.  If you don’t follow the Tumblr log, but have read the last post in here you’ll know that I’m having some issues with an intense […]

Why hello there insecurity, been a while since I’ve seen you.

Posted September 10th, 2009 by notaiden | 1 Comment

I have been socially transitioned since about age 12.  I didn’t formally come out until I was 20, but I have exactly one friend who considered me a “girl” as a child.  He was my only straight friend and had a crush on me that lasted…well, until I came out. The early social transition means […]

Well this could be interesting…

Posted September 4th, 2009 by notaiden | 3 Comments

I may be getting a new roommate.  Friend is going through a rough patch and needs a place to stay and while I’m broke, I’m not so broke that I’m willing to let someone be homeless when I have a perfectly comfortable couch. However, this friend does not know I’m trans.  Very few people do […]