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Posted May 6th, 2011 by notaiden | 6 Comments

While I’m working on a couple of more in depth posts I thought I’d go over the search terms I’m apparently fairly high ranked for, but haven’t actually addressed.  Figure if people are going to get here from them I should at least make sure they get information. when you start taking testosterone ftm will […]

I’m bi and trans, and I’ve only ever dated other bi’s. I know that there are plenty of gay and straight people who date trans people, but I know that I would always be worried that I’m inadequate. Do/did you have that problem? How did you get over it?

Posted February 6th, 2011 by notaiden | 1 Comment

This is amusing to me because I actually have the *opposite* problem. I have problems dating bi/pan guys because I’m always worried they’ll see me as a girl or something ‘in between’. So…I guess I don’t really have any advice for you. My issue with bi/pan guys has gotten better since I started passing better […]

Have you dated an FtM? Would you?

Posted February 3rd, 2011 by notaiden | 20 Comments

I have. It’s not that big of a deal. I’m into guys, trans guys are guys, I’m good. I *don’t*, however, top vagina. I’ve tried. It was really awkward and kind of terrifying. I also haven’t dated anyone — trans or cis — who identified as anything other than male. So no genderqueer trans guys […]

It doesn’t always get better

Posted October 6th, 2010 by notaiden | 30 Comments

I’m sure we’ve all heard of the It Gets Better Project.  In some ways I agree, there are very few things worse than high school.  At the same time, I feel like this is one of those times being transsexual is different from being gay. For me, it hasn’t gotten better.  Not enough.  I am […]

Teen boys and testosterone

Posted September 27th, 2010 by notaiden | No Comments

I normally don’t answer questions unrelated to gay trans men (or even trans men in general), but this one I felt should probably go up. Yes, there are ways to curb testosterone production in teen cis guys.  However, this isn’t something that should be done without a good reason.  Actually, I don’t think you’ll find […]

Choosing not to transition

Posted September 12th, 2010 by notaiden | 14 Comments

“Can I know I’m trans and still not transition” – search term Simple answer?  Up to you.  There’s no rule that says you have to transition (socially or physically) as soon as you know you’re trans, just like there’s no rule that you have to run out and have gay sex immediately upon figuring out […]

Why I don’t post about being a man of colour

Posted September 2nd, 2010 by notaiden | 4 Comments

First of all, I really hate that term.  It’s like when I first found a box of my mom’s old Crayolas and noticed that what I was used to being “peach” was labelled “flesh”.  My white friends have colour too, it’s just a lighter shade.  Unfortunately, there’s not really another good term that encompasses everyone […]

Quick Answer: Male Reproductive System

Posted August 27th, 2010 by notaiden | Comments Off

No, it is not currently possible for a trans man to have a male reproductive system.  We cannot produce sperm.  We cannot *ejaculate.  Our testicles (if we have them) are silicone.  At the moment the surgical options are something of a trade off between size and the ability to get hard without mechanised assistance, seminal […]

Some more musings on brotherhood and man-only organisations

Posted August 17th, 2010 by notaiden | 7 Comments

The “Downsides to being seen as a man” post has received quite a bit more attention than I was expecting, most of it good.  However, I feel like I may have failed to explain a few areas as well as I could have.  One of the big ones has to do with male/man-only organisations.  More […]

One more Formspring: Clothes

Posted August 5th, 2010 by notaiden | 3 Comments

What advice do you have for smaller transguys in terms of finding clothing? Nothing too fancy is necessary, I’m a college lad. – Anonymous How small and what kind of proportions?  I’m short with dancer/gymnast proportions (long, lean arms and legs, no torso to speak of) so I tend to go with either boys’ sizes […]