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Not Another Aiden

Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy

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Just because you’re a man does not mean you need to be a douche

Posted March 25th, 2011 by notaiden | 3 Comments

Something I’ve been noticing as I make friends with younger guys: there’s a horrible trend of coming out, passing, and suddenly becoming the world’s biggest pain in the ass. I’ve seen some sweet, polite, well mannered, privilege checking guys turn into people I never want to see, let alone be associated with.  It’s more than […]

“There is more than one way to have a male body you know”

Posted September 6th, 2010 by notaiden | 8 Comments

Can we please stop saying any variation of that when a guy is experiencing severe dysphoria over his genitalia?  It dismisses the problem in favour of gender theory, an approach that is neither compassionate nor effective. We know that there’s more than one way to be male.  Trust me, we know.  It’s virtually impossible to […]

Who the fuck cares if T makes you gay?

Posted August 14th, 2010 by notaiden | 6 Comments

If there is one thing I’m sick of it’s straight trans guys flipping out over “ZOMG T’S GONNA TURN ME INTO A FAG!” First of all, there is absolutely no evidence to prove that increased T levels have anything to do with sexuality.  Anecdata =/= data. Second, why does it matter?  Woo, you might like […]

Dealing with the lower surgery hate mail.

Posted January 11th, 2010 by notaiden | 10 Comments

Seriously, people?  It’s been weeks now and you still feel the need to bitch at me on formspring because I’m not willing to shell out $20-100k on surgical options with results that don’t make me happy?  Do you not have anything better to do? I have spoken to surgeons in over a dozen countries about […]

Oh FFS. You CAN’T tell if someone is trans unless you ask.

Posted November 24th, 2009 by notaiden | 2 Comments

Apparently this is “stupid trans questions 101″ week here on the blog.  I might have to make a FAQ section or something. So cispeople: YOU CAN’T TELL IF SOMEONE IS TRANS JUST BY LOOKING.  Seriously, cut that shit out.  The guy you’re looking at could just be short/pretty/slim/whatever. Even if you think you’re sure someone […]

“I only date women and transmen”

Posted July 9th, 2009 by notaiden | 139 Comments

Very few things can upset me faster than that phrase.  It’s offensive and completely disregarding my existence as a man.  Today, I found one that actually irritates me even more. “I like femme women and femme FtMs.” Really?  Gee, that doesn’t make it sound like you see me as just another woman at all.  You […]

Another reason why I tend to hate the entire trans community

Posted June 19th, 2009 by notaiden | 5 Comments

http://community.livejournal.com/transgender/2040478.html (post is unlocked which is the only reason I’m ok with posting it here) The community as a whole is childish, bitchy, and rude.  I don’t like to generalise and usually manage to avoid it, but so far almost every trans person I’ve interacted with has been this way.  The ones who aren’t tend […]

Parents: Why we’re way too hard on them

Posted October 12th, 2008 by notaiden | 9 Comments

So I’ve found my biggest issue with transpeople is how we react to our parents.  There are a million other things that also drive me nuts (particularly when it comes to transmen), but the parents issue is one that always grinds on me more than the others. It’s this horrible thing where we seem to […]

Response to an Essay in “Beyond Masculinity”

Posted September 5th, 2008 by notaiden | 11 Comments

I’ve refused to read the essays in this collection simply because I knew they’d all annoy the hell out of me. I loathe the current generation of queer feminism, I reject the idea that I need to apologise for being a guy, and I don’t believe it’s necessary to spend every waking minute of every […]