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An Ode to Black

Posted June 13th, 2013 by notaiden | 1 Comment

Summer seems like an odd time to remember a love of black, but hear me out. Black is slimming.  Which is not important to everyone, but think for a moment about two of the biggest issues trans guys have: breasts and hips.  Even a simple black t-shirt will mask breasts and hips better than a […]

Birthright for the Trans* Person

Posted July 14th, 2011 by notaiden | 8 Comments

Note: This is not a post on the political or religious aspects of Taglit-Birthright Israel.  It is also not at all endorsed by the programme.  It is a personal post designed to help trans* people decide whether or not the trans aspect of their identity will be a problem on the trip.  All information came […]

Fun, if not particularly polite way to deal with butch lesbians insisting on assuming you’re one of them

Posted June 12th, 2011 by notaiden | 6 Comments

My salon does quite a bit of promoting for Pride.  It’s good for business and I think we only have one straight staffer so it’s kind of a big thing for us.  Which means that today I was manning our booth while wearing Kurt’s ‘Born This Way’ shirt. Apparently having ‘LIKES BOYS’ in giant letters […]

Recent searches

Posted May 6th, 2011 by notaiden | 6 Comments

While I’m working on a couple of more in depth posts I thought I’d go over the search terms I’m apparently fairly high ranked for, but haven’t actually addressed.  Figure if people are going to get here from them I should at least make sure they get information. when you start taking testosterone ftm will […]

Just because you’re a man does not mean you need to be a douche

Posted March 25th, 2011 by notaiden | 3 Comments

Something I’ve been noticing as I make friends with younger guys: there’s a horrible trend of coming out, passing, and suddenly becoming the world’s biggest pain in the ass. I’ve seen some sweet, polite, well mannered, privilege checking guys turn into people I never want to see, let alone be associated with.  It’s more than […]

Trans Service Dog Handler

Posted February 3rd, 2011 by notaiden | 7 Comments

Something not a lot of people know: I have a service dog.  When I was 18 my depression was manifesting in dissociative episodes that were only made worse by medication.  California law regarding assistance animals is amongst the most liberal in the country so I talked to my parents and my therapist and we decided […]

Guest Post – Seeking Treatment While Trans: tips, tricks and advice

Posted December 14th, 2010 by kian | 5 Comments

1)  Do your research.  Find trans-friendly medical professionals that take your insurance. Some internet resources to start with: http://www.lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm http://www.angelfire.com/extreme/transrevolution/phoenixrisingftm/transtherinfo.html http://transmentors.org/resources/clinics.html Find a local trans group to ask Google search using such phrases as “trans-friendly”, “gender specialist”, or “LGBT-friendly”; “therapist”, “mental health counselor”, or “psychiatrist” in your local area. Find out what mental health insurance […]

How to ask out a trans man

Posted October 12th, 2010 by notaiden | 6 Comments

Just ask.  Same way you’d ask out any other guy.  Really people, we’re not some sort of magical new species or anything.  Get the pronouns right, respect that we’re men, and you should be fine.  Won’t necessarily get a yes, but at least you won’t make an ass of yourself with the trans stuff.

Passing for the effeminate trans guy

Posted September 30th, 2010 by notaiden | 31 Comments

If you’ve been out for more than a month you’ve probably heard the standard passing tips.  They haven’t changed since I came out and I’m pretty sure they were old even then.  In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if they date back to when the first group of butches figured out that they were actually […]

Teen boys and testosterone

Posted September 27th, 2010 by notaiden | No Comments

I normally don’t answer questions unrelated to gay trans men (or even trans men in general), but this one I felt should probably go up. Yes, there are ways to curb testosterone production in teen cis guys.  However, this isn’t something that should be done without a good reason.  Actually, I don’t think you’ll find […]