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Not Another Aiden

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Words and Identity

Posted March 6th, 2013 by notaiden | 2 Comments

March is kind of an interesting time for me, transition history wise.  It’s the month I got my legal name change (both times), the month I started T, the month I switched to injections, and the month I brought up my gender issues to my therapist.  Because of that I end up thinking about transition […]

Fun, if not particularly polite way to deal with butch lesbians insisting on assuming you’re one of them

Posted June 12th, 2011 by notaiden | 6 Comments

My salon does quite a bit of promoting for Pride.  It’s good for business and I think we only have one straight staffer so it’s kind of a big thing for us.  Which means that today I was manning our booth while wearing Kurt’s ‘Born This Way’ shirt. Apparently having ‘LIKES BOYS’ in giant letters […]

“But you have female socialisation!”

Posted February 24th, 2011 by notaiden | 1 Comment

I cannot begin to explain how much I loathe statements like that.  They’re most often said by women trying to explain why they prefer trans guys to cis guys so I don’t really have to deal with them, but when I do…very little pisses me off faster. Why?  Because there is so much wrong in […]

Guest Post: How I Figured Out I Was Trans, the short version

Posted November 24th, 2010 by kian | 22 Comments

When people ask me how I knew I was trans, I often don’t know where to start.  There were all sorts of signs that I was trans throughout my childhood, but being as this was before the internet, I had no idea that transitioning was a possibility.  Like many trans people, it wasn’t one thing […]

Why I try not to get hung up on terminology

Posted August 25th, 2010 by notaiden | 26 Comments

When I was first coming out “trans” as a word of its own hadn’t really caught on yet.  “Transgender” was not yet an umbrella term, it was what you used for people who wanted social transition, but not any sort of medical treatment.  “Transsexual” was still a perfectly acceptable way to describe someone who wanted […]

Reclaimation and “faggot”

Posted August 18th, 2010 by notaiden | 13 Comments

When I was coming out “transfag” and “trannyfag” were fairly common terms to throw around.  “Trannyfag” has slowed down a bit (largely due to trans women correctly pointing out that you can’t reclaim a word that isn’t generally used to describe you), but “transfag” still exists — though it’s shifted meaning a few times.  I […]

Response: Is there a transgender ‘lifestyle’?

Posted January 13th, 2010 by notaiden | 2 Comments

I’m going to be honest, I don’t read many trans-specific websites.  In fact, I don’t think I read a single trans-specific anything if it’s not on Tumblr or LiveJournal.  I’m past that phase in my life and most of the people on trans-specific sites annoy the hell out of me.  Plus, I can’t keep my […]

FtM 101: Sex, Sexuality, Gender, Gender Expression

Posted September 17th, 2009 by notaiden | 6 Comments

This is something I probably should’ve posted months ago since it’s so useful for explaining not just transsexuality, but also how I can be a gay, effeminate FtM transsexual.  Back when I started this blog it was everywhere though so I figured I didn’t have to.  Apparently the trans community has changed a lot since […]

Language: Effeminate vs Femme

Posted September 7th, 2009 by notaiden | 3 Comments

I don’t use the word “femme” to describe myself.  Never have, likely never will.  That’s not so say that I’m butch or anything, I just don’t like the word “femme”.  Other people use it fine, but not me. Why?  Because rarely (if ever) will you hear a gay man refer to himself or another man […]