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Not Another Aiden

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Sexual attraction to trans men

Posted November 29th, 2010 by notaiden | 19 Comments

I’m going to tell everyone a little story.  It’s a short story, but the point of it is rather important. About a year ago I met this guy.  Maybe 5’3″, very slight build, higher than average voice, effeminate in a somewhat unusual way, and pretty as hell.  I’ve rarely met women prettier than this guy, […]

10 Moments that really WEREN’T clues

Posted October 3rd, 2010 by notaiden | 27 Comments

I already did a post on the times that I probably should’ve known something was up, but I feel like it’s important for people to realise that even those of us who did have a lot of “classic” trans traits also often had some moments that weren’t so “typical boy”. When I decided that my […]

Passing for the effeminate trans guy

Posted September 30th, 2010 by notaiden | 31 Comments

If you’ve been out for more than a month you’ve probably heard the standard passing tips.  They haven’t changed since I came out and I’m pretty sure they were old even then.  In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if they date back to when the first group of butches figured out that they were actually […]

How young is too young?

Posted September 24th, 2010 by notaiden | 12 Comments

As I’m sure all of us “old timers” have noticed, kids are coming out at younger and younger ages.  I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing, the sooner a kid can be themself the less trauma they’ll have to deal with later.  However, I do wonder whether or not some of the very young […]

Choosing not to transition

Posted September 12th, 2010 by notaiden | 14 Comments

“Can I know I’m trans and still not transition” – search term Simple answer?  Up to you.  There’s no rule that says you have to transition (socially or physically) as soon as you know you’re trans, just like there’s no rule that you have to run out and have gay sex immediately upon figuring out […]

Sissyphobia and the FtM community

Posted May 19th, 2010 by notaiden | 22 Comments

When I went to my first FtM meeting I expected to find out more about local doctors, how to tell my parents, what to do about dating…basic, “I just came out and I’m bloody terrified” stuff.  I figured there’d be guys in all stages of transition and a variety of different personalities and gender expressions.  […]

Gender norms and pets

Posted February 9th, 2010 by notaiden | 18 Comments

This past week a couple of seemingly unrelated things happened to make me wonder how everyone genders (or doesn’t gender) their pets.  One of my friends is trying to adopt a puppy and my section of the power grid decided to take an extended vacation.  Normally I wouldn’t bother mentioning either of these, but because […]

FtM 101: Sex, Sexuality, Gender, Gender Expression

Posted September 17th, 2009 by notaiden | 6 Comments

This is something I probably should’ve posted months ago since it’s so useful for explaining not just transsexuality, but also how I can be a gay, effeminate FtM transsexual.  Back when I started this blog it was everywhere though so I figured I didn’t have to.  Apparently the trans community has changed a lot since […]

Finding Our Place: Social Acceptance for Non-Traditional Transmen

Posted September 15th, 2009 by notaiden | 17 Comments

I tend to get into fights when in areas designed solely for transmen.  Actually, I tend to get into fights when in areas designed for transpeople in general.  It’s odd for me because I do have trans friends (both men and women), it’s the only way I would have managed the early days of transition.  […]