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Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy

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FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux

Posted January 2nd, 2012 by notaiden | 28 Comments

Alright, this post is one of the most popular pages on here, but it’s a bit outdated so I’ve decided to write a new one. Let’s start with the basics: what is a gay FtM? In this case I’m using it to mean trans men (however you want to define that) who are attracted to […]

Trans Pride vs Gay Pride

Posted January 10th, 2011 by notaiden | 20 Comments

I am not at all a poster child for trans pride.  I take no joy in the fact that I am trans, at best I consider it a kind of annoying condition that allows me a different view of the world than most people. However, I have an incredible amount of gay pride.  My selection […]

Guest Post: How I Figured Out I Was Trans, the short version

Posted November 24th, 2010 by kian | 22 Comments

When people ask me how I knew I was trans, I often don’t know where to start.  There were all sorts of signs that I was trans throughout my childhood, but being as this was before the internet, I had no idea that transitioning was a possibility.  Like many trans people, it wasn’t one thing […]

Dating and Transphobia

Posted September 18th, 2010 by notaiden | 22 Comments

“Is it transphobic to not date a trans person?” I’m actually surprised it took this long for this question to come up.  It’s common enough, but also far more complicated than people tend to think.  So much depends on why you won’t date a trans person.  I’m gonna use the gay male angle for this […]

Why cis men like trans men

Posted September 9th, 2010 by notaiden | 37 Comments

Someone seriously asked me this question the other day.  Honestly, I was kind of surprised.  Partially because I haven’t been randomly asked a trans question since my early coming out days and partially because I’d never really thought about it before.  It’s an interesting question though, and one that could be reassuring to guys who […]

Seriously boys, not everyone who turns you down is transphobic

Posted August 29th, 2010 by notaiden | 8 Comments

So I went out last night.  It’s not something I do very often these days, work has me busy and I did not inherit the Latino dance gene, but a friend was visiting from out of town so I figured why not. Apparently pushy little hipster queens were why not.  Don’t get me wrong, the […]

Reclaimation and “faggot”

Posted August 18th, 2010 by notaiden | 13 Comments

When I was coming out “transfag” and “trannyfag” were fairly common terms to throw around.  “Trannyfag” has slowed down a bit (largely due to trans women correctly pointing out that you can’t reclaim a word that isn’t generally used to describe you), but “transfag” still exists — though it’s shifted meaning a few times.  I […]

Clearing up a few posts

Posted May 5th, 2010 by notaiden | No Comments

I’ve been getting quite a few hits on posts that I’m not sure fully express how I feel any more.  They probably need updated, but I’m in the middle of a bit of a perspective change so I can’t quite find the right words.  In any case, I feel it’s important to mention that the […]

Guest Post: Advice to newly out gay trans men

Posted March 13th, 2010 by kian | 6 Comments

Three gay FTM old-timers have gathered the following tips that might help you to become part of the gay community. Personality and Dress While you may feel the need to play with your masculinity and put on personas while you figure things out, please use an editing eye. For instance, say you like having a […]

Guest Post: So you’re a gay trans man?

Posted January 7th, 2010 by guest | 21 Comments

1.  Get comfortable with the idea of gay sex. Many FTMs date women at first because they assume that they must like women if they are a man, but this is not true at all.  If you are interested in dating men or already do, then start calling yourself gay and get used to the […]