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Not Another Aiden

Life of A Non-Standard Gay (trans)Guy

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Trans Pride vs Gay Pride

Posted January 10th, 2011 by notaiden | 20 Comments

I am not at all a poster child for trans pride.  I take no joy in the fact that I am trans, at best I consider it a kind of annoying condition that allows me a different view of the world than most people. However, I have an incredible amount of gay pride.  My selection […]

“There is more than one way to have a male body you know”

Posted September 6th, 2010 by notaiden | 8 Comments

Can we please stop saying any variation of that when a guy is experiencing severe dysphoria over his genitalia?  It dismisses the problem in favour of gender theory, an approach that is neither compassionate nor effective. We know that there’s more than one way to be male.  Trust me, we know.  It’s virtually impossible to […]

Reclaimation and “faggot”

Posted August 18th, 2010 by notaiden | 13 Comments

When I was coming out “transfag” and “trannyfag” were fairly common terms to throw around.  “Trannyfag” has slowed down a bit (largely due to trans women correctly pointing out that you can’t reclaim a word that isn’t generally used to describe you), but “transfag” still exists — though it’s shifted meaning a few times.  I […]

Why I still go to FtM groups

Posted May 23rd, 2010 by notaiden | 14 Comments

I hate FtM support groups.  Cannot stand them.  Most of the time I want to strangle everyone there.  Still, every time I’m in a new place I look for the group that’s furthest away while still being accessible and go check it out.  I go, I sit, I listen, I try not to get into […]

Sissyphobia and the FtM community

Posted May 19th, 2010 by notaiden | 22 Comments

When I went to my first FtM meeting I expected to find out more about local doctors, how to tell my parents, what to do about dating…basic, “I just came out and I’m bloody terrified” stuff.  I figured there’d be guys in all stages of transition and a variety of different personalities and gender expressions.  […]

Don’t Make Your Entire Life About Transition

Posted November 29th, 2009 by notaiden | 1 Comment

I know, sometimes that seems impossible.  When you first come out it’s like you figured out this secret society full of cool new people and ideas.  It can be overwhelming, especially if you also jump into physical transition. You don’t want to make your entire life about being trans, though.  It’s a damned good way […]

Stealth vs Out: The Neverending Dilema

Posted September 30th, 2009 by notaiden | 3 Comments

One of the things all transguys have to deal with eventually is how open they want to be about their trans* status.  Unfortunately, most of us don’t start thinking about this until it becomes a problem — whether because we didn’t realise we weren’t out already or because suddenly people we don’t want knowing have […]

Finding Our Place: Social Acceptance for Non-Traditional Transmen

Posted September 15th, 2009 by notaiden | 17 Comments

I tend to get into fights when in areas designed solely for transmen.  Actually, I tend to get into fights when in areas designed for transpeople in general.  It’s odd for me because I do have trans friends (both men and women), it’s the only way I would have managed the early days of transition.  […]