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What kind of man do you want to be

Posted June 4th, 2013 by notaiden | 3 Comments

One of the advantages we, as trans men, have is the opportunity to almost completely remake ourselves.  No one is too surprised if we undergo a few personality shifts as we come out and transition and they’re not likely to say much unless those shifts are negative.  It’s a great time to experiment and figure […]

FAQ: Gay Men and Gay FtMs Redux

Posted January 2nd, 2012 by notaiden | 28 Comments

Alright, this post is one of the most popular pages on here, but it’s a bit outdated so I’ve decided to write a new one. Let’s start with the basics: what is a gay FtM? In this case I’m using it to mean trans men (however you want to define that) who are attracted to […]

From the frequent search terms: Going stealth

Posted December 31st, 2011 by notaiden | No Comments

“can transmen ever go stealth” This is going to depend on your definition of ‘stealth’ and what it is you want to do to your body. Do you want to never have to tell anyone in your life that you’re trans, including sexual partners? If you want T, top, and lower surgery you can probably […]

It’s that time of year again: Some notes for the guys starting T

Posted October 6th, 2011 by notaiden | 1 Comment

For some odd reason every year starting in late September and running until early November there seem to be an influx of guys starting T and asking questions.  Maybe it’s that the guys away from home for college can start the process when the school term does or something, I dunno.  In any case, here […]

On being stealth

Posted April 8th, 2011 by notaiden | 3 Comments

I just got an inbox full of questions about being stealth and why and how that affects me so rather than respond to each of them individually (sorry guys, I don’t have quite that much free time) I figured I’d do a post. First of all, it’s important to note that stealth is just as […]

Just because you’re a man does not mean you need to be a douche

Posted March 25th, 2011 by notaiden | 3 Comments

Something I’ve been noticing as I make friends with younger guys: there’s a horrible trend of coming out, passing, and suddenly becoming the world’s biggest pain in the ass. I’ve seen some sweet, polite, well mannered, privilege checking guys turn into people I never want to see, let alone be associated with.  It’s more than […]

“But you have female socialisation!”

Posted February 24th, 2011 by notaiden | 1 Comment

I cannot begin to explain how much I loathe statements like that.  They’re most often said by women trying to explain why they prefer trans guys to cis guys so I don’t really have to deal with them, but when I do…very little pisses me off faster. Why?  Because there is so much wrong in […]

Sexual attraction to trans men

Posted November 29th, 2010 by notaiden | 19 Comments

I’m going to tell everyone a little story.  It’s a short story, but the point of it is rather important. About a year ago I met this guy.  Maybe 5’3″, very slight build, higher than average voice, effeminate in a somewhat unusual way, and pretty as hell.  I’ve rarely met women prettier than this guy, […]

How young is too young?

Posted September 24th, 2010 by notaiden | 12 Comments

As I’m sure all of us “old timers” have noticed, kids are coming out at younger and younger ages.  I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing, the sooner a kid can be themself the less trauma they’ll have to deal with later.  However, I do wonder whether or not some of the very young […]

Self Defense

Posted September 22nd, 2010 by notaiden | 13 Comments

In case anyone’s managed to not notice, the GLBT related hate crime rate is going up in the US.  We’re not the only ones, Muslims have a higher rate and it’s going up faster, but it’s something to be aware of. Different people have different ways of handling their new (or increased) target status after […]