Not Another Aiden

We all hope that our relatives will be accepting when we come out to them.  Unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen.  If you live with your family (or anyone else who can toss you out) and are even slightly afraid of them reacting poorly there are a few things you should have ready. – A friend.  [...]

When people ask me how I knew I was trans, I often don’t know where to start.  There were all sorts of signs that I was trans throughout my childhood, but being as this was before the internet, I had no idea that transitioning was a possibility.  Like many trans people, it wasn’t one thing [...]

Yes, geniuses, trans men are perfectly capable of ‘having sexual intercourse with a woman’.  Seeing as how most trans men have at least a passing interest in women (us gay ones notwithstanding), it has to have been done at some point.  Strap ons exist for a reason.  I’m sure there are other ways, but it’s [...]

If you’ve been out for more than a month you’ve probably heard the standard passing tips.  They haven’t changed since I came out and I’m pretty sure they were old even then.  In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if they date back to when the first group of butches figured out that they were actually [...]

“Can I know I’m trans and still not transition” – search term Simple answer?  Up to you.  There’s no rule that says you have to transition (socially or physically) as soon as you know you’re trans, just like there’s no rule that you have to run out and have gay sex immediately upon figuring out [...]

There’s this myth that every trans guy will magically start passing after six months to a year on T.  It’s bullshit.  Flat out bullshit. No one can tell you when you’re going to start passing.  I’ve been on T since I was 20 (I’m in my mid-20s now) and I’m still in that gender ambiguous [...]

I’m sure everyone knows the problems associated with being trans.  We’ve all heard horror stories, I don’t think there’s a trans person out there who’s managed to transition without some sort of crap being thrown their way, and even if by some miracle you do, there’s always someone else who can share their trauma. What’s [...]

These are always a bit fun and I’m working on some stuff that takes a bit more thought so I need a break. Do trans guys like straight girls better than bi girls? Hell if I know, I’m not into girls at all.  I can say that I was really uncomfortable dating bi guys early [...]

When I went to my first FtM meeting I expected to find out more about local doctors, how to tell my parents, what to do about dating…basic, “I just came out and I’m bloody terrified” stuff.  I figured there’d be guys in all stages of transition and a variety of different personalities and gender expressions.  [...]

Virtually every trans related blog in the world has some version of this already, but just in case you missed the memo: – Saying that you support trans rights while also claiming that we’re not “real” men or women is contradictory. – Saying that you have no problem with trans people…as long as your child [...]